I was thinking the other day that even though marriage is frustrating at times there is no way I could imagine us not being together. How do people that? There is no one better for me than my husband, other than the "improved" version of my husband, which I am not sure really what that would be. I suppose the improved version for me would simply be that he was less angry, more God centered and a bit more emotionally supportive. But not too much or he would drive me crazy in another way.
I just keep thinking my best gardens are the ones that have evolved to be what they are. They surprise me how they shape and take form. A plant dies, something else goes in, but overall I know I would have never designed my gardens to be what they are today and starting a garden is way more work than tending gardens. I think marriage is like that. I would really rather tend it than start over and not only can I not imagine anyone else for me, I certainly can't imagine anyone else for him. LOL!
Maybe I am thinking to highly of myself, but come on. Yes he is handsome, in good health, stable, a good Dad. I'm not saying someone else wouldn't want him, I'm just saying I think he would miss everything about us, just as I would. We have a beautiful home, property, children and a dog. We did all of it together over the last 12 years and what could be better? Especially our children.... they are so precious and perfect to us. Not perfect like they are flawless individuals. No one is that, but just that they are ours. God's gift to us to steward and mentor through this earthly life, created from us. It's hard not to want to be the best you can be God and for them so they try to be the best they can be for God.
I'm getting carried away. I just was thinking that tending a marriage and the benefits of all the time invested in a marriage is so much sweeter, beautiful, and enjoyable than even the beginning of falling for someone, which is short lived and more like annuals than perennials.
Friday, October 16, 2009
Wednesday, September 16, 2009
When life ebbs and flows
I guess I haven't had much to say since last post six months ago. No, that's not really true. It's just difficult for me to maintain my children's webpage, facebook, and my blog. Also, though I have had many profound thoughts about politics, religion, schooling, gardening and life in general, being pregnant has changed my typical day greatly. As will the arrival of this baby. Truly if I have an analogy for my gardening and my life, most things have been significantly reduced if not totally arrested. I desire to garden, I fantasize about my garden plans, yet I do not get to participate much other than general maintenance.
I am thrilled for the arrival of our baby boy. I am not thrilled about getting the
H1N1 vaccine with Thimerisol, but I am praying over it. My gut is telling me the risk of a newborn contracting H1N1 is much greater than the risk of getting the vaccine and the number of Moms I know that are talking about not getting the vaccine are making it much more obvious to me we will need to.
That's my lastest, other than while I away I turned a year older, I planted many more new plants, re-arranged three garden beds with my husbands help, went on two family vacations, purchased a sewing machine and made nine dozen diaper inserts for g-dipes, made cloth wipes, been shopping for the baby and my darling daughters fall wardrobe, who also turned a year older and am now working on the stocking the freezer with meals to enjoy once we are home with a our newest family member. I sure I have left some things out, but overall it is good to recall just what I have been up to if I have been to busy to journal it.
I am thrilled for the arrival of our baby boy. I am not thrilled about getting the
H1N1 vaccine with Thimerisol, but I am praying over it. My gut is telling me the risk of a newborn contracting H1N1 is much greater than the risk of getting the vaccine and the number of Moms I know that are talking about not getting the vaccine are making it much more obvious to me we will need to.
That's my lastest, other than while I away I turned a year older, I planted many more new plants, re-arranged three garden beds with my husbands help, went on two family vacations, purchased a sewing machine and made nine dozen diaper inserts for g-dipes, made cloth wipes, been shopping for the baby and my darling daughters fall wardrobe, who also turned a year older and am now working on the stocking the freezer with meals to enjoy once we are home with a our newest family member. I sure I have left some things out, but overall it is good to recall just what I have been up to if I have been to busy to journal it.
Friday, February 20, 2009
Sleepless in America
I have been reading this great book loaned to me by a friend about getting kids to sleep at night. Babies need 14-16 hours of sleep in a 24 hour period. Toddlers need no less than 13 hours of sleep daily and pre-schoolers need no less than 12 hours of sleep daily. The ramifications of not getting enough sleep lead to tantrums, whining, and being naughty. A school-age child needs 10 hours or more of sleep and an adolescent should have no less than 9.25 hours of sleep. Not that far off from the average adult that should be getting 8 or more hours of sleep.
All of the hours of sleep listed above are the minimum needed, kids can of course get more if need be.
Sleep routine was vital to the success of getting enough sleep. All sleep routines start in the morning. Having a regular wake time and the day beginning the same everyday. I like 7:30 personally, maybe 7:00 in the summer for gardening. At any rate, since the time begins the day, then meals and activities fall into place. Say dinner tends to fall between 5:30 and 6:00, then by 7:30 winding begins, dimming lights, shutting off t.v., brushing teeth and reading stories. Now, I work a few nights a week, it is always the same, that my husband doesn't start the routine early enough. I figure it's okay as long as everything falls within a half-hour or so. Baby should be asleep by 9:00, awake by 7:30 and napping three hours in the afternoon. The only way to lessen the nap time is to have her in bed earlier, by 8:00 p.m. This is a struggle for us, but I am identifying it so we can work on it more. The only way my little one sleeps three hours in the afternoon is if I sleep with her. Which isn't against any rules so far as the book goes. Not that would only follow one book anyway, it all comes down to what works for you. That aside I have found the info to be very helpful. Sleepless in America by Mary Sheedy Krucinka has given me insight to my little ones behavior. Every little bit helps me learn to be a better Mom.
All of the hours of sleep listed above are the minimum needed, kids can of course get more if need be.
Sleep routine was vital to the success of getting enough sleep. All sleep routines start in the morning. Having a regular wake time and the day beginning the same everyday. I like 7:30 personally, maybe 7:00 in the summer for gardening. At any rate, since the time begins the day, then meals and activities fall into place. Say dinner tends to fall between 5:30 and 6:00, then by 7:30 winding begins, dimming lights, shutting off t.v., brushing teeth and reading stories. Now, I work a few nights a week, it is always the same, that my husband doesn't start the routine early enough. I figure it's okay as long as everything falls within a half-hour or so. Baby should be asleep by 9:00, awake by 7:30 and napping three hours in the afternoon. The only way to lessen the nap time is to have her in bed earlier, by 8:00 p.m. This is a struggle for us, but I am identifying it so we can work on it more. The only way my little one sleeps three hours in the afternoon is if I sleep with her. Which isn't against any rules so far as the book goes. Not that would only follow one book anyway, it all comes down to what works for you. That aside I have found the info to be very helpful. Sleepless in America by Mary Sheedy Krucinka has given me insight to my little ones behavior. Every little bit helps me learn to be a better Mom.
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